Beauty is in the eye of the beholder

I admire people who feel comfortable with their bodies. It seems like they’ve reached a level of self-confidence which sometimes seems unattainable to me. But it’s false that only fat people have body confidence issues. I have friends that have been deemed ‘skinny’ or ‘perfectly curvy’, who have been told time and time again that they have amazing bodies, but the thought of wearing a swimsuit gives them anxiety. I admire people who feel comfortable with their bodies. It seems like they’ve reached a level of self-confidence which sometimes seems unattainable to me. But it’s false that only fat people have body confidence issues. I have friends that have been deemed ‘skinny’ or ‘perfectly curvy’, who have been told time and time again that they have amazing bodies, but the thought of wearing a swimsuit gives them anxiety.

While I do think that confidence is built by (sadly) external validation, this just proves to me that being comfortable with your body comes from within. It’s like that saying, ‘You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink’. I’m still searching for the secret to self-confidence, and if I figure it out, I’ll let you guys know. But for now, I realize that validation is not going to be the answer to all my problems, and that if I want to change and feel more comfortable in my skin, I’m going to have to take steps towards that and not depend on others to push me there. And I feel like a lot of that comes from stepping outside of your comfort zone.

So, try wearing that top that you think accentuates your rolls to a party. Or wear those pair of shorts even though you hate your legs. Or wear that dress even though you don’t think you fill it in enough. At first, it’ll be hard. You’ll feel vulnerable and judged, but eventually, you’ll get to a point where you learn to love your body, every aspect of it. Because to someone, somewhere, you are the epitome of beauty. And you deserve to be the epitome of beauty in your own eyes too.